tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839616105237509962.post6384085653603611376..comments2017-07-05T15:27:37.513-07:00Comments on Playgroup Reject: Maternal Meltdowns and Existential OpacityMonkeychickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17524798332795093741noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-839616105237509962.post-83186120285829011432011-12-15T10:46:31.067-08:002011-12-15T10:46:31.067-08:00Good job, Ellen. It might help to know you are no...Good job, Ellen. It might help to know you are not alone. It might also help to reflect on the capriciousness of life (just when you think you have it figured out, your children will find a way to prove you are wrong.) <br /><br />Look at it this way: If human beings (including mothers) were perfect, we would be denied the on-going show Congress puts on everyday absolutely free… AND you would have no idea what it feels like to be a sticky cupcake. Experience has to count for something.<br /><br />On the other hand, you may just be intellectualizing something that is, by its very nature, primordial and, therefore, "a work in progress". <br /><br />If God had intended for you to understand what's going through your daughter's mind at any given moment, he would have produced the definitive playbook for raising children, something like painting by filling in the numbers: "Oh, she's six months and a day old, so you do this…."<br /><br />This way, every child is his or her very own "adventure"...or "challenge", depending upon how you look at it. I think it is therapeutic to get things off your chest whether it's self-doubt or just the caramel your daughter deposited there.<br /><br />And I think you need to be generous with yourself. There is an old Indian saying that you should always walk a mile in a man's (or woman's) moccasins before you judge them. There is also an old Hollywood saying: "Me Tarzan, you Jane". It all boils down to whatever works for you. <br /><br />Oh, and by the way, when someone points and says "gavagai", does it really matter what it means if there is no one there to see or hear them?TrapperJimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10494121014908599344noreply@blogger.com